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i feel like that im living without reason i know were in the planet for a reason but i cant seem to find happiness i think i need to find girl who understands me i mean my life isnt a failure i go to college im young 18 i do fun things but inside i dont seem to enjoy it
i want to exist to make someone happy
i hate feeling like this …….
i could get stoned and enter my mind and feel the pleasure but it will never compare to the happyness i see in the eyes of happy couples i would trade all the pleasure i have ever gotton from weed,beer for true happyness


btw your right i have no friends at college all my friends moved becouse of there college now i feel lonely ha

You really need a girl, get social with people and start living college life how they show it in the movies..I feel exactly the same as you and in 6 days, i'm going to start college and try to get a long with people.

Go make friends. :D
Walk out there, introduce yourself, even if they're not girls, maybe you'll meet one at a party or some shit if you go hang out with bros.

Weed + beer = Depressants.

People that smoke weed daily are very depressed and sad.
That is why they never have the same look as those 'couples'.

Even if they tell you how amazing it is..
They still sit on their own getting high because they can't handle sitting in their own skin.
Doesn't sound like a life to me.

Meeting new people at college can be very daunting for most people. You've just finished school where you saw the same people year in and year out (for the most part) and you probably remained friends with a very similar group of people for that period.

You've now moved into an environment where chances are none of these people are the same ones you went to school with/were friends with and essentially have to start over again.

It'll happen, don't get bogged down on finding a girl. Find anyone you can communicate with and branch out from there :)

From: P1ng
Meeting new people at college can be very daunting for most people. You've just finished school where you saw the same people year in and year out (for the most part) and you probably remained friends with a very similar group of people for that period.

You've now moved into an environment where chances are none of these people are the same ones you went to school with/were friends with and essentially have to start over again.

It'll happen, don't get bogged down on finding a girl. Find anyone you can communicate with and branch out from there :)

But again, this will always happen in life because that's what happened when you went to middle school and then to high school. Later, you will leave college/University and have a good job and start over again.

From: Peanuts
Weed + beer = Depressants.

People that smoke weed daily are very depressed and sad.
That is why they never have the same look as those 'couples'.

Even if they tell you how amazing it is..
They still sit on their own getting high because they can't handle sitting in their own skin.
Doesn't sound like a life to me.

:duh: depressants dont make u depressed … just because they are categorized as depressants means in no way,shape, or form will you become depressed from it. if you are already depressed, i guess you can elevate your state of depression, but those substances can not create a new found depression in you…


but more on topic, i would say get involved in something. inter-murals are fun, or join club that pertains to your major or a hobby. the most important thing is to not just sit in your room all day every day, doing absolutely nothing. because that will lead to depression and a really boring lifestyle :/ (and obesity :o ) .

I am pretty sure whatever college you go to has either Cru or Navigators. They are Christian organizations that can really hook you up to other new students and help you with your problems. As cheesy as it may sound, having relationship with God is the only thing that will provide you with permanent happiness/satisfaction/pleasure. Its not about being a "moral" person, its about walking with God and getting to know him better and better. Religion=made by man. Thats why its so imperfect.

I know how you feel.
The worst part about it is that no matter what, you feel empty for days and you know theres nothing you can do to stop it.
I used to love someone from the bottom of my heart and then they just threw it away with some "b frends" bullshit. That's when I started to become antisocial-ish. I no longer care about my appearance, don't shower for days, stay up late playing xbox, and still playing runescape- and why? Because what else am I supposed to do? I have very little to live for and nobody else really understands because they are too happy living with everyone. I admit it, I had my heart broken and I was left to hurt to pick up the pieces to start over. She's with someone else and they seem happy, it kills me every time I see her smile or her posting a picture of her and her boyfriend.
I'm so alone and it hurts so bad. I totally know how you feel.

~Joe

From: Joe
I know how you feel.
The worst part about it is that no matter what, you feel empty for days and you know theres nothing you can do to stop it.
I used to love someone from the bottom of my heart and then they just threw it away with some "b frends" bullshit. That's when I started to become antisocial-ish. I no longer care about my appearance, don't shower for days, stay up late playing xbox, and still playing runescape- and why? Because what else am I supposed to do? I have very little to live for and nobody else really understands because they are too happy living with everyone. I admit it, I had my heart broken and I was left to hurt to pick up the pieces to start over. She's with someone else and they seem happy, it kills me every time I see her smile or her posting a picture of her and her boyfriend.
I'm so alone and it hurts so bad. I totally know how you feel.

~Joe

aww bro. :(

Being there..
Still kinda there..

*pats on back*

Man you're 18, don't worry about any serious relationship. Focus on college, work hard towards whatever you're taking, the better you do now the better your life will be later on.

Keeping fit and frequent exercise helps more than you can imagine with staying positive. I'd recommend that above all. Besides, you meet other people when you work out, job, bike, swim, whatever… Maybe you'll meet some girls, but either way, you can't go wrong with exercise. ;)

Just make real friends, worry about a girl when you are not having the time of your life (or to say)

Didn't you make a thread about the girl of your dreams? How is that working out?

From: print123
i feel like that im living without reason i know were in the planet for a reason but i cant seem to find happiness i think i need to find girl who understands me i mean my life isnt a failure i go to college im young 18 i do fun things but inside i dont seem to enjoy it
i want to exist to make someone happy
i hate feeling like this …….
i could get stoned and enter my mind and feel the pleasure but it will never compare to the happyness i see in the eyes of happy couples i would trade all the pleasure i have ever gotton from weed,beer for true happyness


btw your right i have no friends at college all my friends moved becouse of there college now i feel lonely ha

Let me tell you something….


Do not rely on other people to make you happy. Do not rely on other people for your happiness. That is a slippery slope you will not recover from. Become comfortable with yourself. Get to a place where you can be emotionally attached to people without becoming emotionally dependent on people.

This is the basis I have set for myself from personal experience, and everyone's experience is different. It may or may not work for you.

Depressed people shouldn't get high. It leads to personality and mental disorders.
The last thing you want is Borderline personality disorder or Depersonilization disorder from smoking weed. Its the scariest thing in the world. you think your fucked up now, wait until you feel like your possessed or feel like your having an outer body experience 24/7.

I use to smoke an eighth a day. I am a deep thinker. I thought alot about the universe, the world, life and death. Thought about a lot of things. One day I got too high, thought about the wrong things and I started to tweek out. I haven't been the same since. I had a bad drug experience from a drug that was supposed to be harmless. Well let me tell you, it might not harm your body but it harms your mind and personality.

speaking from experience. stop smoking weed, get a part time job, get a car, start going out to clubs/ bars, get yourself a relationship.

P.S. Please stop spamming this forum with these threads man. This is like your 40'th thread.

I didnt read much, but here is my say. Smoke pot, find out what you feel while on pot, and replicate that with legal things, eg you may feel like you are floating, go buy some floaties and lay in the water. cough.

I get that feeling too sometimes, that I should do something productive but then some hours later a family member/friend reminds me of something nice to do and its mostly gone

Like a lot of people are suggestions above just worry about making real friends right now, Ill be honest, at the age you are at, and if you are looking to be getting married, USUALLY a girl just causes more stress than they are worth, and either one of you end up heart broken..
Keep working on making true friends who will always be there for you, and then the day will come, when you are really ready to settle down with a girl, you will find her. hang in there man. :)

From: stuartroad
I didnt read much, but here is my say. Smoke pot, find out what you feel while on pot, and replicate that with legal things, eg you may feel like you are floating, go buy some floaties and lay in the water. cough.

You are sick lol… I love it!

I'd get proactive and get into a gym routine where you can feel proud of the way you look, channel that energy into being confident and finding a girl!
Its college!

get drunk, bring a girl or two home and you'll be just fine. The less you do with your time (ie. Spend it on places like here) the more depressed/useless you will feel. Become immersed in school, take stuff you'll find interesting, judging by your feeling of uselessness take a existentialist philosophy, its more about what to do with your life to be happy opposed to why we have life etc. Join a few clubs, meet a few people, everything will all work out :)

find a hobby, go get laid,

I play tennis with my mates when I'm feeling like that. I would say go do something athletic. It always helps me think.

Tennis is always fun, regardless of your skill level. Even if you've never played, you can still lob it around. My tip would be to stay active, hang out with friends, and get a hobby.

I know how you feel when you say "empty", I feel like that alot. Most of my friends either didn't go to college or took a semester off so I'm forced to talk to new people too (and to top that off, most of the people in my classes are either douches or wannabe hipsters.)

So you're not the only one ;)

Felt like that for a long time. Talking from my experience, I brought it on myself through a lack of confidence; I could speak to girls, make them laugh, even had the girl of my dreams after me at one point, but I lacked the self esteem to tell her how I felt for fear of rejection.

What actually happened was it got to the point that I'd smoke so much that I just didn't care about anything, and the next time I spoke to her I told her everything, expecting nothing and regretting nothing. Long story short, I just got back from a couple day break in a hotel with her and we've been together for a good while. People say have fun at college but everyone's different, I'd really rather be settled, and I am, so would she, and so we match. You've gotta realise that you won't be lonely forever.. and stop taking yourself so seriously. Honestly, there's two options, confidence, or just thinking fuck it, and telling yourself you've nothing to lose. Do that, and as long as you do so with a smile it'll come off exactly the same. Realistically, if you get rejected what's the worst that can happen? You can go home, smoke and just forget about the whole deal, try again another day.

From: print
i feel like that im living without reason i know were in the planet for a reason but i cant seem to find happiness i think i need to find girl who understands me i mean my life isnt a failure i go to college im young 18 i do fun things but inside i dont seem to enjoy it
i want to exist to make someone happy
i hate feeling like this …….
i could get stoned and enter my mind and feel the pleasure but it will never compare to the happyness i see in the eyes of happy couples i would trade all the pleasure i have ever gotton from weed,beer for true happyness


btw your right i have no friends at college all my friends moved becouse of there college now i feel lonely ha

Heres a friendly advice,

Understanding your self-image and cultivating a positive self-image is an extremely important way to boost self-esteem. Think what defines you as a person, your personality, your likes/dislikes, your aims in life, your memories, your clothing, your talents/skills etc, etc. See yourself for who you are, accept it is all right to have some faults, this is unavoidable, remember nobody is perfect. Think positively about yourself, reassure, encourage and praise yourself. Be your best friend, never put yourself down!

From: greg0rr4
Heres a friendly advice,

Understanding your self-image and cultivating a positive self-image is an extremely important way to boost self-esteem. Think what defines you as a person, your personality, your likes/dislikes, your aims in life, your memories, your clothing, your talents/skills etc, etc. See yourself for who you are, accept it is all right to have some faults, this is unavoidable, remember nobody is perfect. Think positively about yourself, reassure, encourage and praise yourself. Be your best friend, never put yourself down!

Yes! This! It sounds too good to be true but if you keep thinking positive of yourself (and in general) everything will fall into place, and life will lead itself. Remember that people want to hang with positive, happy people and not with people who drown themselfs in their self-created sorrow. Laugh, and the world laughs with you. Weep, and you weep alone.

Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes,
And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes
The tool of Thought, and, shaping what he wills,
Brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills

This may seem a little far-fetched, but this is a passage from James Allen's book called As a man tinketh. It is about how you think has a massive impact on everyday life/relations with people etc. It really was an eye opening book for me. You might want to consider reading it, it's only 60 something pages. It just might do the trick for you, it has done it for me :)

Serious relationships suck at young age.. had one middle - beginning of college.. now I AM empty inside. The only emotion I feel is pretty much happy, all the time.. I don't get sad when close deaths occur, I am empty inside! I enjoy it though, most people probably wouldn't.. I talk to people on forums, ignore everyone in real life.

Grave dig @greg0rr4
How do you feel now print?