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I got an email, cause he doesn't go to my school anymore, but i was just hanging out with him a few days ago, and he drops by school for some classes (hes homeschooled now)

heres the email:

hey,dude I just wanted to let you know that i want to ask [gf's name] out. Because we are friends, I am going to wait until you two break up, so dont worry about me stealing her from you, I know how bad that feels, ([a guy name] stole [his ex name] from me). so I am going to wait. If you dont like her, or you dont want her anymore, I will. Just giving you a heads-up. Good luck ;^)

I got tons of things running through my head right now… Should I go and be wtf and make it into a fight, or should I talk to [GF] about it… Am I going to Lose [gf] over this…. Good luck???? Is that saying its a competition, I have to compete for MY gf? Part of me things I already won. Shes with me right?

My friend was really obsessed with his last gf, and omost committed suicide over her. AND THEY ONLY WENT OUT FOR 1 1/2 Months…. They broke up about 2 months ago now, and up to about a week ago, he was saying stuff about how much time was taken from him from his ex…


SO, what should I DO :(.

I hate drama…….

talk to your gf about it. See what she says, then maybe talk to him bout it with or without her, depending on what you and your gf say.

best of luck.

Break his nose.

Fix'd

You can't accept that, talk to him, and if he doesn't understand, go further in your "explanations".

Seriously, don't let yourself be overrun like that…

Forward the e-mail to your GF :p

Just ignore it? I don't see what the problem is here, he even said he won't do anything till you've broken up with her. And I'm sorry to say, but that time will probably come sooner or later.

I have been in a similar situation not too long ago with a girl I was pretty close with and we was getting on really well and stuff until this other guy started interfering because he was desperate for a GF which caused me and this girl to argue because he slowly took the attention away and stuff.

I just thought f**k this and left them too it, they got together a few weeks later only to break up the next day apparently because of Uni but i know the real reason is because she most likely realised she didn't like him, although this is pretty irrelevant i think the point still goes across clearly … don't just sit there and watch him try his luck because you never know she might fall for his charm although if she has some sense she will see him for the real person he is and i also wouldn't call him a friend.

From: code841
Just ignore it? I don't see what the problem is here, he even said he won't do anything till you've broken up with her. And I'm sorry to say, but that time will probably come sooner or later.

That's what they all say but secretly he will be chatting her up and charming her slowly trying to get in to her good books …

From: mastaraymond
Forward the e-mail to your GF :p

Rayray is right.

^ and his nose.

From: N1ke!
Break his nose.

Fix'd

Irony much?

Kick his ass now

Here is a small ASCII picture to describe the situation.

(((((((((((((((((X <3 Y))))))))))))))) Z <— outsider?

As long as your girlfriend doesn't have a crush on the dude, does a problem exist?

kick his ars, and show her that email. if she is who you think she is, she will tell you not to worry, if not, your better off without her

Do nothing, let him ask her out. If she goes. Then shes not worthy to you.

~Home

From: NxTitle
Irony much?

I wasn't kidding.
I would seriously rage and rape him..

Just let things flow.

1. He's not a friend of yours, period.
2. She MIGHT go out on that date with him, but she might be deluded to think it's a friend-type thing, so don't draw conclusions too fast.

Don't give him a beating, not worth it. If you are the bigger man, she'll stay with you. If you're not, she'd leave you whatever the reason.

~RM

From: Rasta Magician
Just let things flow.

1. He's not a friend of yours, period.
2. She MIGHT go out on that date with him, but she might be deluded to think it's a friend-type thing, so don't draw conclusions too fast.

Don't give him a beating, not worth it. If you are the bigger man, she'll stay with you. If you're not, she'd leave you whatever the reason.

~RM

Thats harsh :p I say its up to you. You know your GF best. If she is the caring type, then show her the email and discuss this with her or else if she is one of those 'popular' type, let the thing flow as RM said. Don't do anything. If she leaves you for your 'friend' then you deserve someone better than her.

Good Luck

And BTW that guy isn't your friend. I suggest you slowly cut all connections with him…

He's 15.. girls these age are as smart as peanuts.

No offense ZaSz.

From: N1ke!
He's 15.. girls these age are as smart as peanuts.

No offense ZaSz.

Wouldn't that also go for the boys then?

From: Wizzup?
Wouldn't that also go for the boys then?

But we are talking about a girl leaving a boy over another boy, not boy leaving a girl for a girl, so it's not really relevant :p

From: N1ke!
I wasn't kidding.
I would seriously rage and rape him..

Hope not literally rape him O_O


If you have no intention to break up with her any time soon, just explain him that.

(example)
Just wanted to let you know that I have no intention for breaking up with [gf name]. If you are going to wait until we break up, then damn man, your going to have a hell of a lonely life.
Just to clear any thing up, DONT try anything on her. If you do, so help me, you won't live to regret it.

Maybe something a little less harsh, if you still want to be friends :p but you get the just of it. Don't let this slide man, not a good idea.

Nice "friend" you've got there :p

I think you should have a little talk with your "friend", also don't show the email to your gf before he actually does something. Good luck ;)

"bros before hoes" your friend might be breaking the rule, if he's borderline on it.

You should have called her that night your phone was dead from a payphone…that would have cemented the relationship. (and got you laid) Good luck

Some friend he is.

That stuff is wrong. That guy is an awful friend, tell your girlfriend about how much of a creep he is and don't be friends with the guy in unison.

If that doesnt work, tell him to back the f*ck up or get smacked the f*uck up. :p

From: N1ke!
I wasn't kidding.
I would seriously rage and rape him..

Use a condom, he might have AIDS.

Hey, I got in a relationship today. I can't legally drive, but I know how to. I can control my own life :P.

All depends on the girl my friend.

From: mastaraymond
Forward the e-mail to your GF :p

From: N1ke!
Rayray is right.

^ and his nose.

This^

Lol. This is fun, xD

From: bionicle1800
Hope not literally rape him O_O

Dude, it's N1ke you're talking about, ofc it's literally. Have you EVER seen N1ke joke? <.<

Anyway, just talk about it to your gf and be like "but that's not gonna happen, right?" and kiss her or something :P

- or rape him. works too.

NOOOOOO don't talk to your girlfriend about it, that's dumb.

if he's your best friend, call him an idiot, and that will end the conversation. if he decides he's going to ask your girlfriend out, and she accepts, then she's probably not for you anyways…

Everything you've said about this "friend" of yours leads me to believe that:

1. He is ruled by his quickly changing emotions.
2. He feels himself to be the lead character in a TV show, everyone else is just supporting cast (read: Hes the only one in the entire world that "matters" in his mind).
3. He is socially incompetent.
4. He also may be academically incompetent.
5. He does not take "no" for an answer, if he can help it. He will go to what he perceives to be the furthest extreme possible to change the "no" to a "yes".
6. He sees your girlfriend (and all other girls, and probably you, and everyone else) as an accessory, an object. There to benefit him.
7. He's probably a bad guy to be calling "best friend".

Regardless, you're dealing with someone who is clearly not the smartest monkey in the cage. He has breached a major, and widely accepted social rule. The punishment for which is usually harsh…

From: N!ke
Break his nose. I would seriously rage and rape him..

From: IceFire
Kick his ass now

Things to do:

• Stop trusting him, completely. With friends like that, you don't need enemies.
• If you want to drastically lessen the chances of him ever getting your gf (read: hurt him), even after you break up, show her the email. Be very negative towards him while you do so. She may very well permanently label him a "loser", "creep" etc. Some pseudonym for "socially incompetent and therefore an undesirable mate". Witch he, at least at this point, is.

Things not to do:

• Beat his ass. That gives HIM power over you. You do not want this. He could easily, easily, call the police or tell your school. You will be punished.

In summary, this guy fails hard at social interaction. He may not know it, but chances are other people have recognized it, and the number of people who recognize it will only increase. He only cares about other people when their suffering makes HIM uncomfortable, he is the center of the known universe in his own mind. A legend in his own ego. If your gf gets with him in any capacity you should be very, very happy for three reasons:

a) With a gf like that, who needs enemies.
b) She will suffer for her mistakes, and you don't have to do a thing.
c) You have two less unrecognized negative forces in your life.

tl;dnr: Never trust that guy with anything. Ever. He will consistently do whats in his best interest. Always. Its all that matters to him. If your girl leaves you for him… better now than later. And if she does leave you for him, she will, at some point, realize she made a biiig mistake. Sticking around this guy, and/or the gf (only if she gets with him) is "going down with the ship" so to speak. Because the ship IS sinking…

Yes, I am terribly bored, and yes, I could be totally wrong.

Simple.

If I was in your shoes, I'd get my folk and we run up on him.
Whoop his ass good, and make sure he is conscience to hear you say
"Don't think about my girl again, bitch(this is where u kick him again)"

Bro, I'm like 98% sure this will work in your favor.

From: Buckleyindahouse
Simple.

If I was in your shoes, I'd get my folk and we run up on him.
Whoop his ass good, and make sure he is conscience to hear you say
"Don't think about my girl again, bitch(this is where u kick him again)"

Bro, I'm like 98% sure this will work in your favor.

Because probation is fun! :spot:

From: Ruroken
Because probation is fun! :spot:

Chances are he won't get it and if he does its not that bad.

From: Ruroken
Everything you've said about this "friend" of yours leads me to believe that:

1. He is ruled by his quickly changing emotions.
2. He feels himself to be the lead character in a TV show, everyone else is just supporting cast (read: Hes the only one in the entire world that "matters" in his mind).
3. He is socially incompetent.
4. He also may be academically incompetent.
5. He does not take "no" for an answer, if he can help it. He will go to what he perceives to be the furthest extreme possible to change the "no" to a "yes".
6. He sees your girlfriend (and all other girls, and probably you, and everyone else) as an accessory, an object. There to benefit him.
7. He's probably a bad guy to be calling "best friend".

Regardless, you're dealing with someone who is clearly not the smartest monkey in the cage. He has breached a major, and widely accepted social rule. The punishment for which is usually harsh…




Things to do:

• Stop trusting him, completely. With friends like that, you don't need enemies.
• If you want to drastically lessen the chances of him ever getting your gf (read: hurt him), even after you break up, show her the email. Be very negative towards him while you do so. She may very well permanently label him a "loser", "creep" etc. Some pseudonym for "socially incompetent and therefore an undesirable mate". Witch he, at least at this point, is.

Things not to do:

• Beat his ass. That gives HIM power over you. You do not want this. He could easily, easily, call the police or tell your school. You will be punished.

In summary, this guy fails hard at social interaction. He may not know it, but chances are other people have recognized it, and the number of people who recognize it will only increase. He only cares about other people when their suffering makes HIM uncomfortable, he is the center of the known universe in his own mind. A legend in his own ego. If your gf gets with him in any capacity you should be very, very happy for three reasons:

a) With a gf like that, who needs enemies.
b) She will suffer for her mistakes, and you don't have to do a thing.
c) You have two less unrecognized negative forces in your life.

tl;dnr: Never trust that guy with anything. Ever. He will consistently do whats in his best interest. Always. Its all that matters to him. If your girl leaves you for him… better now than later. And if she does leave you for him, she will, at some point, realize she made a biiig mistake. Sticking around this guy, and/or the gf (only if she gets with him) is "going down with the ship" so to speak. Because the ship IS sinking…

Yes, I am terribly bored, and yes, I could be totally wrong.

Most Accurate description I have seen of him, most of its true! He isn't academically incompetent though.

Also, he was at school today because he still had like German or something, and he was all trying to hang out with her. I kept my cool, and when I was really around her, he just left. (or his mom got there, I just didn't care…)

But I am texting with her now, heres a summery of our convo so far:

Me:So I got this email… Makes me sad, pissed, and all inbetween.
her:Whats it about
Me: You, but nothing bad!
her: Oh goodness, is it from [guy i talking about]
Me: Hmm, why would it be from him
Her: Cause he says he likes me and stuff
Me [worried+AHHHH]: yeah its from him, so how do you respond to him
Her: stuff + "you arent worried are you?"
Me: Describes why I *Love* (haven't said it yet :/ pathetic no?) + "Do i have a reason to be worried"
Her : You are amazing………. You have no reason to worry… <3

So no ass kicking to be done.

And I can drive lol, and shes way more mature then you guys think, with problems you shouldn't have to deal with at her age, or any age period…

From: ZaSz
Most Accurate description I have seen of him, most of its true! He isn't academically incompetent though.

"may be", "may be"! :p

But good to hear man, good to hear. Sounds like you've won the war :f:

with problems you shouldn't have to deal with at her age, or any age period…

With all due respect, I've heard that from almost every teenage girl ever, might just be the ones I know though…

I know :D

[no rude meaning]
She has to see a shrink every other week. Do most of the girl you hear they have problems say that?[/]

most don't see a shrink, but most probably should…

Glad to see it worked out, and ruroken is brilliant in his own little ways :)

I really would look for a new best friend if I were you.. if coh3n ever did that to me, hell I'd move on pretty damn quick.

From: ZaSz
I know :D

[no rude meaning]
She has to see a shrink every other week. Do most of the girl you hear they have problems say that?[/]

Haha… dude you have no idea…

It's great that you support her though, there are a lot of people who feel its just too much trouble to be in your position. Just remember that there will always be people that suffer more, and no one ever hears the worst of it.

From: Nava2
Glad to see it worked out, and ruroken is brilliant in his own little ways :)

Yeah, I'm like the rain man of bloody internet forums :garfield:

Ok first off, how long have you been dating her?

You probably love her lots. But, if this guy wants to go out with your girl, just let it happen (I mean just let him ask her and see what happens). If she breaks up with you, who cares. Say it was nice knowing you. Find another girl (Who is loyal and won't do this to you). Don't try to go for the one girl all the time, if she says no then find someone else and who knows she might get jealous over you.

But then to make things fun say no to her. Oh, and BTW don't show the email to your GF. You should ONLY show it to her IF she does go out with him.

EDIT - After reading what you posted (Sorry for skipping it lol) she is staying with you. That might be good but she could be seeing him in secret so you might want to have a heart to heart talk with her

He sounds like a pretty douchy friend.
But the email did say he wouldn't interfere unless you weren't interested.. So I don't see the immediate problem.

Edit: nvm on ^. I'm glad it all worked out!

You cant do much to be honest. It depends on her, if she loves you for real she will stick with you. If she changes then ill have you know that there are more women in this world then men.

From: Wizzup?
Wouldn't that also go for the boys then?

You're so funneh big boiii

From: Zyt3x
Dude, it's N1ke you're talking about, ofc it's literally. Have you EVER seen N1ke joke? <.<

I wasn't joking :redface:

From: Buckleyindahouse
Simple.

If I was in your shoes, I'd get my folk and we run up on him.
Whoop his ass good, and make sure he is conscience to hear you say
"Don't think about my girl again, bitch(this is where u kick him again)"

Bro, I'm like 98% sure this will work in your favor.

^ Also works, even though she said not to worry.
I would still rape him.


N1ke out! :I

Be a mate, give him a porn magazine and some of your old single socks. You don't have to be a doushebag becouse he is. unless you place a cam in his room and stream it to the internet.
Please link it if you do so!

Glad it ended that way :)
If you'd have done nada then you'll always have been wondering "what if I stepped in… what if…"

From: Cartmann
Be a mate, give him a porn magazine and some of your old single socks. You don't have to be a doushebag becouse he is. unless you place a cam in his room and stream it to the internet.
Please link it if you do so!

Wait wat. You want to watch him masturbate?

fighting will jsut make it worse…

talk to your gf, and than talk to him telling him dude chill… cmon bro this is all me and such GOOD LUCK LOVE.

From: Buckleyindahouse
Simple.

If I was in your shoes, I'd get my folk and we run up on him.
Whoop his ass good, and make sure he is conscience to hear you say
"Don't think about my girl again, bitch(this is where u kick him again)"

Bro, I'm like 98% sure this will work in your favor.

Of course the black guy would say that ;) (not being racist, joking).

1 - Not Your Friend. The guy's a sucker I would avoid.
2 - If your GF loves you this is no big deal, she does not have to know about it right?
3 - You can either ignore it or tell him you think what he's saying is plain wrong, which he probably doesn't realize.
4 - If you love her, keep her. I've seen it happen too often - you know that your girl won't do with that boy, but SHE doesn't knows it. She'll go out with her once or twice, break after two weeks and be like what the hell did she do with her genuine, caring ex-boyfriend ?

From: ZaSz
I got an email, cause he doesn't go to my school anymore, but i was just hanging out with him a few days ago, and he drops by school for some classes (hes homeschooled now)

heres the email:

I got tons of things running through my head right now… Should I go and be wtf and make it into a fight, or should I talk to [GF] about it… Am I going to Lose [gf] over this…. Good luck???? Is that saying its a competition, I have to compete for MY gf? Part of me things I already won. Shes with me right?

My friend was really obsessed with his last gf, and omost committed suicide over her. AND THEY ONLY WENT OUT FOR 1 1/2 Months…. They broke up about 2 months ago now, and up to about a week ago, he was saying stuff about how much time was taken from him from his ex…


SO, what should I DO :(.

I hate drama…….

He's not a friend, he's a fucking dick, he can go get some other girl, he doesn't need your girl, if you want her, spoil her, love her,make love to her, do everything possible to give her reasons to tell you why she loves you. Appreciate the fact that she spends time with you or goes out of her way to see you, show appreciation by putting in that little more by going to see her all the time, buying her things, public affection. Do anything and everything to keep her yours.. if she's worth it and you really like, or love her.

kill him, Problem Solved.

Dude, just don't give a shit.
She's yours not his.
If he asks her and she says yes, oh well, find another girl.
Don't trip, you're taking this all out of proportion.

Stop with the killing shit, the problem was already solved.

if she loves you and wants to be with you then theres no worry

but errrm that is not a freind id go knock the F**k out of hiim

From: Scaper
but errrm that is not a freind id go knock the F**k out of hiim

^this

Problem is solved with no fighting. Sheesh. This thread doesnt even need to be open any more.

Well, its general dump. So I think it should stay open, plus I like the support, makes me feel better, he called me and was like, "i didn't mean to offend you, I was trying to do the opposite" I told him w/e… I still pissed at him, and I won't be his friend now.

bros before hoes dude, don't loose a good friend over a girl.
(even if he started it)

From: Brain
bros before hoes dude, don't loose a good friend over a girl.
(even if he started it)

If that was his "Bro" he woulda found another "hoe" and if that "Bro" wants his "hoe" then thats not his "bro" in the first place.

Viva le revolution!
+rep ifg you belly clap hem!

From: ZaSz
Well, its general dump. So I think it should stay open,

General news -.-

Y'all are so violent.

From: Ruroken
Y'all are so violent.

They wouldn't do any of that for real though 'cause they pussies ;).

From: Sex
They wouldn't do any of that for real though 'cause they pussies ;).

I know, they talk shit ;)

From: Sex
They wouldn't do any of that for real though 'cause they pussies ;).

Shid, I would.

From: Ruroken
I know, they talk shit ;)

I alway talk big shit like a horse ass.

From: Buckleyindahouse
Shid, I would.


I alway talk big shit like a horse ass.

Yes, I know you would Josh :D.

But not any of the other people.

From: Sex
Yes, I know you would Josh :D.

But not any of the other people.

We'll get our boys, roll up on their place… :garfield:

Talk to your friend about this, tell him that you don't feel comfortable recieving an e-mail like that. Either he'll be a true friend, and understand, therefore never ask her out (until you give him the green light). Or he'll stand by what he originally said, and then you can decide how you want to punish him (either don't talk to him again, or do what N1ke said).

From: Sex
They wouldn't do any of that for real though 'cause they pussies ;).

I would run and hide, and maybe make smartass comments trying to get nifty.
Sarcasm.

Mr.sex what would've you done?

I would have just dropped him. Show him whos boss.