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i'll be totally honest with you guys.

watch this if you never had a girl-friend (and for the girl scripters boyfriends)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3G70YlKlho

what is it that you feel?

after watching this… i felt rather sad and depressed.

i wish i was that boy :(

Well I sort of wish I had a GF before I watched that. Didnt really impact me at all.

That was really pointless.

Why were you searching for a video like that? :p

Lawl.

Sorry but I think she is not even hot but I can understand how your obsessed with her.. I used to like the chick from harry potter almost that much but now I am over it and have a real gf.

hey legendary. i know what ure feeling…

Back in the day, i used to be a hopeless romatic. Never had a girl freind, etc. Always had these extramily idealistic ideas about love and the like.

Looking around you see other guys with girls, and it sorta makes you feel jealous. You think romatically, you wait and wish for the rigth girl, and she never quite comes along. And you wish you had a girl that you could share your feelings with and treat her right and do all of thoese romatic things.

Now, like I said, I could be completly off from what you felt when you watched that movie, but all i have are my own experiences to work off of, so forgive me if im off in my own world.

Hmm, how do I say this…

Ok, well, like I said, im going off of my own expericnes. Being a romatic, is good, its very good. Miles better than the quality of men (boys) you find now adays.

But heres just a little warning.. so hopefully you dont make the same mistakes I did… Being a romatic… you have a pretty good idea of the potential of true love… which unfortunatly makes it all the more desirable…

Dont let that make you desprate… In fact, make sure it doesnt, because once your brain wants something enough,.. it will fake yourself into beliving it. aka, you will find a girl one day, and you will think she is the one for you… and it will all just be one big lie you dont even know you are telling yourself…

Like i said, just me.

I believe that is pretty good advice Lord, I know what you mean it has almost happened to me (thinking that one girl is the one and only and there will never be another) but I get over it more easily luckily.

wise words…

that means a lot.

deeper than any procedure or function will ever touch.

thanks greg for your advice. (gosh i gotta stay way from the dramas…)


@awesom: i never asked you if she was hot ( personally, i thought she was kinda unattractive compared to her cast mates).

@Mushroomhead4lyfe : i wasnt… i was searching for PGSM on youtube. unfortunately i stumbled onto that video and now i cant stop thinking about my own life.

From: legendaryhero90
wise words…

that means a lot.

deeper than any procedure or function will ever touch.

thanks greg for your advice. (gosh i gotta stay way from the dramas…)


@awesom: i never asked you if she was hot ( personally, i thought she was kinda unattractive compared to her cast mates).

@Mushroomhead4lyfe : i wasnt… i was searching for PGSM on youtube. unfortunately i stumbled onto that video and now i cant stop thinking about my own life.

Glad I wasnt to far off in left field. Anyhows, I just hope some people can learn from my mistakes, it's not always best to learn first hand on some things.

Anyhows… this conversation is getting a little bit to heavy… time to lighten it up…


Wait… legandary… you wish you were that guy???!!! I thought you were a girl?!

Hah…you have strange tastes my friend. As I posted on Youtube, when they get obsessive, it really gets annoying. You have 0 time for anything else, but whats worse is when you attempt to hide this annoying brat that follows you around from your family. And then when you do eventually get pissed and leave, they cry and then say, "i nevur l0ved u".

Just to compliment the video, I have 5 full diaries from girls that were obsessing over me, etc. When I read over them, reminds me how childish they are.

Oh, and no point getting a girlfriend while in high school, with relationship comes breaking up. +I prefer the smart ones, and well…won't find a lot of those in my grade.

-Dunce.

From: Dunceiam
Hah…you have strange tastes my friend.

I don't think he was really liking this movie because of the girl, or who she was, or how she looked.

He is pulling mainly the end of the movie part. White cloths, etc. More of the idea behind it, not what the eye candy is.

But the first lick of the lollipop is the one that counts ;).

And yes I know, it's just I also know legendary has a thing for asian girls, especially this one *refers to sig*.

Its the song that makes you feel like it, was there then the MSN "Logging In" icon spinning or two humans has got nothing to do with it xD

From: LordGregGreg


Anyhows… this conversation is getting a little bit to heavy… time to lighten it up…


Wait… legandary… you wish you were that guy???!!! I thought you were a girl?!

-.-

i wouldve put my name as hero-ine i was a girl…

From: Dunceiam
Hah…you have strange tastes my friend.
-Dunce.

yes i like asain girls :D

From: LordGregGreg
I don't think he was really liking this movie because of the girl, or who she was, or how she looked.

He is pulling mainly the end of the movie part. White cloths, etc. More of the idea behind it, not what the eye candy is.

right on! and also the part where the girl keeps sitting to right the diary.

From: Dunceiam

And yes I know, it's just I also know legendary has a thing for asian girls, especially this one *refers to sig*.

i just have her in my sig because she is sailor moon.

i could change it if i wanted to. ;D

I understand how you feel… I also feel very much alone when I sit in my room with nobody else awake but me, and no one wanted any kind of contact with me. The loneliness is killing. If I listen to music I like, I tend to get so happy about it that I suddenly feel lonely. Why am I happy when listening to music totally alone in the world? There's a girl I'm hot on, but I'm a big sissy, because my last girlfriend was in kindergarten :S Broke up with her in first grade :p We agreed.

I'm a very psychically strong person, but I'm totally lost when it comes to taking the first steps. I'm not a fan of fashion and I have clothes bought for almost nothing in a shop selling food and all that kinda stuff. The cheapest stuff in the world, because I don't care about my looks. But that has, of course, also made me lose all interest in partying and all that shallow stuff, as most teenagers do today, which leaves me clueless on how to get a girl.

But when I feel lonely and when I feel that my life's a boring play in the theatre that repeats itself over and over, I usually just go here and talk with friends and all of that.

Everybody is loved! Not by God (Maybe too), but by a person!

-Knives

I'm actually quite similar except I have no need for a girl. I've given up on peer pressure and instead just enjoy life. People like me for who I am, not how expensive my sneakers are, and that's how I like it. I'm probably one of the most down to earth, 13 year old one would ever meet. But, as I like to believe, getting a girlfriend in Middle/high school is completely and utterly useless. School is to learn, not to impress.

So my advice, don't worry about taking the first step, don't even take it if you don't want your new life to be all about impressing a certain girl. I've gone that path and I did not like it.

And almost every kid in my grade are either, A) Dumb shits, or B) Have zero logic and argue by using the extremely cliched phrase, "ur m0m". Which is why I take such refuge in the internet, everybody needs companions to talk to sensibly. That and I'm also not judged by my age but rather my mental capacities which is well, better :).

We're one and the same my friend.

-Dunceiam

i feel somewhat… relieved.

to see that there are at least a few people who i can relate to and can share their opinions openly.

yes, even though this little clip brings me sadness, i cant help but watch it over and over.

i dont know why, but i keep watching it. even if it pains me and digs my heart from my very own chest.

i just wanted to add in a little bit more input, concerning popularity, and good cloths, sneakers, fashon, and basically all superficial things.

Do you really want a girl that likes you because of this? Sounds like a bad plan set for disaster and a waste of time at the momemnt.

But then again, I supose that depends on what your looking for in a relationship. If you just want a one night stand, then I supose that would be important, (and I would also have some choice words for scum like you).

But if you are in it for something that is actualy worth anything, then it is probably best to leave anything superficial out of the picture all together.

And then you will realize… man, I am getting absolutly no girls like this.

And the answer is, "duh", because you have basically limited your… range, (per say) to only girls that arent completly obsessed with physicall things.

And unfortunately this is a smaller and smaller portion now adays. (and yes, body, beauty, and most part of "sexy" are all temperamental, physical things.)

And then you also realize that you only have the male population and society to blame. SO make sure your not a hypocrite.

eh?

thats already en-grained in my head…

and yeah i never had a girlfriend because of those exact reasons.

yeah i had crushes and such but after you really get to know them, beauty and such all crumbles before me.

i dont know… im still depressed whenever i think about it.

/callvote kick society

just incase you are on the other side of the fence…

it is a pretty valid argument for a girl to think "he doesnt evne take care of himself, how cna he take care of me?"

so make sure you have good higine, and care about how you look enough so you don't look like a slob.

As for being depressed, theres not much i can say other than CUT IT OUT. Serously, if you are lucky, you wont have to mess with girls for anouther 5-10 years. You think you are depressed now? that's nothing compared to what a girl can do to you.

keep your emotions in check, if they are helping you, then use them, but if they are hurting you, disreggard them. You can't handle a girl unless you can handle your emotions.

Not to mention, no girl, evne a good one, is going to be interested in a depressed guy :P

do something that makes you happy. and slap yourself if you make stupid excuses not to.

so make sure you have good higine, and care about how you look enough so you don't look like a slob.

lol i know im not one of those guys that are lazy and acts like a slob but im no the type of guy that would dress up all flashy either. (usually a shirt with jeans is good for me, lol :D)

As for being depressed, theres not much i can say other than CUT IT OUT. Seriously, if you are lucky, you wont have to mess with girls for another 5-10 years. You think you are depressed now? that's nothing compared to what a girl can do to you.

yeah i think i am depressed. Most of my peers have already gone through some sort of relationship like this but me. Even my own family is starting to think that im not strong enough to take on the "big bad world". Sure, a girl can do more damage to me than if im alone, but that feeling of loneliness just eats you up from the inside out… At least for me.

keep your emotions in check, if they are helping you, then use them, but if they are hurting you, disregard them. You can't handle a girl unless you can handle your emotions.

emotions arent exactly black and white (figuratively speaking). Like if you made a big mistake, its just not that easy to throw it away and pretend that it didnt happen. It truly is hard to ignore something that has been staring at you in the face all your life.

And i do have my emotions in check. I dont hurt anyone or lash out at them because im mad. However, the more i try to hold all my emotions in, the more i think about them and in turn, the more im sadden by them.

Not to mention, no girl, even a good one, is going to be interested in a depressed guy :P

no they wont. Most girls i know want the "wild or daring guys" (which isnt me at all… i tend to be the opposite…). They also want to have "fun" and "party out". Sadly, there are no girls that arent like that where i live… (im serious… even the Religious and "geeky" girls at my school are party animals, Im not lying!)

do something that makes you happy. and slap yourself if you make stupid excuses not to.

what's something that is good to do alone that doesnt alienate you from society?

From: legendaryhero90
lol i know im not one of those guys that are lazy and acts like a slob but im no the type of guy that would dress up all flashy either. (usually a shirt with jeans is good for me, lol :D)

fair enough , lol

From: legendaryhero90




yeah i think i am depressed. Most of my peers have already gone through some sort of relationship like this but me.

completly invalid point. You do not want to be like every one else… EVER. so you should not give a damn what they have and have not done. Use their mistakes to better yourself, yes, but no more.

From: legendaryhero90

Even my own family is starting to think that im not strong enough to take on the "big bad world".

that has nothing to do with you really. Parents will always be like that, Hell, mine still are, lol.

From: legendaryhero90

Sure, a girl can do more damage to me than if im alone, but that feeling of loneliness just eats you up from the inside out… At least for me.

nah, i know what your talking about. The things poision. You need to find a way to get away from that. Hang out with freinds, and just do stuff. THey don't even have to be girls, just haning out with anyone works.

From: legendaryhero90


emotions arent exactly black and white (figuratively speaking). Like if you made a big mistake, its just not that easy to throw it away and pretend that it didnt happen. It truly is hard to ignore something that has been staring at you in the face all your life.

i know what you mean. They are nto black and white, in fact, very little in life is.
To help distinquish this, and boil it downt to an accurate, "black and white",. i use the utilitarian aproach, (and variatioons of it can also be found in the bible and the book of mormon, in relation to a … oilive tree? i think, and its fruits. Anyhows, it is basically this, you can tell if something is good or bad by looking at what it produces. This profit makes people kill each other, therefore this profit is false and bad. This milk makes me throw up, and feel bad, therefore it is bad. This feeling makes me feel bad and does not make me a better person, therefor it is bad.

so… making a big mistake, and then feeling bad. "this feeling makes me feel bad and depressed, but it is changing me so i do not do this again, thefore i will not feel this bad again, therefore the feeling is good."

"feeling depressed is making me feel bad, and is creating a perpetual loop of feeling bad, and is not making me better in any way, therefore it is bad.

From: legendaryhero90



And i do have my emotions in check. I dont hurt anyone or lash out at them because im mad. However, the more i try to hold all my emotions in, the more i think about them and in turn, the more im sadden by them.

so you need to work on them a little more. I am tlaking about more than just controling your anger and frustrations emotions. Depression is nothing more than an emotion (and i will burn and skewer and f***ing psycologist who lies and sais diferent to make money, ) and should be disregarded when needed. You don't ignore it, you come to terms with it and deal with it, you realise it isnt helping you, and that it is just making things worse, and decide (yes, it is a mental decision that cna solve this) that it is not worth feeling any more.

From: legendaryhero90


no they wont. Most girls i know want the "wild or daring guys" (which isnt me at all… i tend to be the opposite…). They also want to have "fun" and "party out". Sadly, there are no girls that arent like that where i live… (im serious… even the Religious and "geeky" girls at my school are party animals, Im not lying!)

so? Don't be some one you arent, and do go for a girl who wants somthing you arent. You get a girl that fits you, you dont fit a girl. But even a girl who doesnt like to party stil likes to feel happy, and that is tricky feeling happy around someone who feels sad.

From: legendaryhero90


what's something that is good to do alone that doesnt alienate you from society?

anything my bromide, lol. It's going to be a personal preferance really. Me? I like to make cookies or something, and eat half the cookie dough till i am sick, and then give the rest to random people.

or go and head over to curtis house and work on some random circuit project.

or go for a walk in the park, (and if you have friends like mine, get together and shoot airsoft guns at each other while cutting your face on brnaches in the woods)

dont worry too much about alientating yourself. You need to fix this depression thing first. Then you can worry about being social.

From: LordGregGreg

dont worry too much about alientating yourself. You need to fix this depression thing first. Then you can worry about being social.

thanks again for the advice.

now only if i can fix this little depression of mine.

i think i'll start here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dupKF3unERo (a little gaming always cheers me up :D)

and i think imma need to hang with my friends more. (even though most of them are girls.)

What is it with these threads on girls? Life's more than that, you know.


I understand women are the popular topics of bleacher gangs, but Life is a competition.

From: R0b0t1
What is it with these threads on girls? Life's more than that, you know.


I understand women are the popular topics of bleacher gangs, but Life is a competition.

this entire topic really isnt about girls at all.

it is nothing more than an attemp by legandary, (who is a girl) to try to prove to use that she is not a girl, by wanting to be a guy, and talking about liking a girl.

however…
i supose that she has a bad argument evne here, because 1
1. wanting to be a guy
and
2. liking a girl

are not really things that some girls these days dont do..

ffs… do i have to put in my sig again…

"for the last time, im a guy"


and yeah im going through a hard time atm, so im trying to find myself again.

im getting over this little depression of mine… however i feel like im also losing myself.

yeah, its really hard to put into words.

wtf, that is just fawked up

From: natinsatin1
wtf, that is just fawked up

spam much?

what is fawked up?

me or the people here?

its not spam, i am telling you what i think of that vidieo. And i say it makes no sense. (maby the asians can only understand it.)

read the other posts and maybe you'll understand.