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Hello villavu,

I'm a bit of a vet when it comes to this scene, only recently became active again however many of you know me and my work circa 2007-2012. With that in mind, at 23 I'm probably a little older than the average demographic of this site. Therefore, due to recent events in my own life, I really feel the need to send a message to every user, young or old, that I can.

Hold your loved ones and family and tell them you love them every single day.

Last night, I lost my best friend to a stroke. It came out of nowhere, no serious health problems on his side. He messaged me last night on facebook a few hours before it happened and I felt I was too busy to reply at the time. That was the last chance I was ever going to get. I lost out on having a final conversation with my best friend, just because I was trying to finish up something for my college.

Please, you do not want to feel the pain I feel now. Be smart, life is short, talk to your friends, tell them how much they mean to you. Its not gay or homo, its caring and genuine. For all you know it will be the last time that you will ever get the chance. Don't you want them to know how you feel? You might not ever have the chance to actually tell them again.

I also lost my uncle 2 months ago to suicide. I was not very close with him, but I still have memories of him babysitting me when I was younger and seeing him around christmas time every year. I miss him every fucking day.

You only get 1 family, ever.

CHERISH every moment. No matter what issues your family is going through (trust, we all have them), tell EVERYONE that you love them. This was my 2nd uncle that I lost from suicide (the first was a couple years back), and I didn't even learn my lesson the first time around. Its so easy to just forget about the constants in your life and focus on growth, but life isn't constant, ever. It is constantly changing and if you don't keep up with your family you may lose the chance.

Finally, the biggest thing of all. I lost my father at the age of 20. I had to look at my father's cold, white body lying in his coffin at the ceremony…I will never forget it. Just staring at him expecting him to wake up and smile…but he never did. I can not express to you the pain of losing a parent when you barely even have your mature feet on the ground. My father was my idol, my rolemodel, the person responsible for teaching me how to program and teaching me how to live and love. And I never even told him.

I don't want any of you to feel the pain that I have. Capitalize on every part of your life, but never leave your family and friends on the after-burner. Tell your friends how much they mean to you. Tell your family that you love them. Hold your mom & dad everyday and tell those old farts how fucking much they mean to you and that you will forever love them.

You never know when your last moment will be with a person. Please, try your best to never make it a bad one.

Sorry about your friend. You have my condolences.

My ladyfriend has a very high chance of having failing kidneys, and I have to think to myself "Is this really the last few months I'll be able to spend with her?" every time she starts to show symptoms… So I agree with you. Treasure every moment you have with a friend or family member. Good or bad, it might be the last moment you get to be with them.

Good luck with your friends funeral, and remember that tears don't disrespect the dead. Mourn your friends loss. It's a shame that he/she had to go this young.

From: pizzapants
Sorry about your friend. You have my condolences.

My ladyfriend has a very high chance of having failing kidneys, and I have to think to myself "Is this really the last few months I'll be able to spend with her?" every time she starts to show symptoms… So I agree with you. Treasure every moment you have with a friend or family member. Good or bad, it might be the last moment you get to be with them.

Good luck with your friends funeral, and remember that tears don't disrespect the dead. Mourn your friends loss. It's a shame that he/she had to go this young.

Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot. I'll be okay, time heals everything I've been through enough to know that. I just wish someone had grabbed me when I was younger and shook me and told me all of this, because then maybe things could have been different.

That's why I post this to a community that I know is so saturated with younger folks, maybe it could end up making the difference in whoever reads this life and they won't have to feel the same way.

I'm very sorry to hear about your girlfriend as well. Stay positive, and be there for her, thats what she needs most. But to yourself, in your own mind, remember that things could turn south and you need to make sure she knows how much you care about her in case it ever does. Atleast then you'll know that she understood just how much you cared.

I'm sorry for your loss.

This is something I hadn't really considered until the last couple years. I've been lucky to have both parents and all 4 grandparents through my life. My GF recently (about 8 months ago) lost an uncle to cancer and a grandmother to old age. She's only got one grandfather left, and it really opened my eyes. I stayed at the hospital with her for about 2 weeks with her grandmother and saw what it's like.

Just makes you think twice when you start to get mad about something silly, that there's no reason being upset about things that are insignificant because you just never know.

I'm extremely sorry for your loss,
It's really hard losing someone, i've lost alot of people in my life and really missed the chances to get to know them better as a person and not just family, and then you realize you may never get to tell them the impact they've made on your life but you just gotta realize one day we will all be together again..well..lets hope.

It makes me really sad to hear this. I'm really sorry for your loss.

Thanks for the advice though, I'm rather distant from my family due to issues in the past, even though im 21 (the oldest child) and I still live with my siblings.

Everyday I think "I should change and get over the past, and start talking to them and have a real relationship with my siblings that all my other friends seem to have", but it is difficult for me to maintain family relationships. There was an instance where I did not say a single word to my younger brother or sister in 3 weeks, and spent an average of 8 or so hours in the general vicinity of them, no more than 10-20 feet away. I feel like this is because of my addiction to video games, something that I realize and am not proud to admit. I think my mom realized this too and she started taking the internet with her to work, and this made me very angry for some reason.

It's just shitty what I've realized I've become sometimes, and I don't even put in the effort to change. The sad thing is, I know I'm going to have regrets one day in the future, but I feel like I do not have the ability to change the present. It's horrible.

This is sad… I've had incidents in my own life too. I feel your pain mate. Hang on, cry, let go of the feelings. Then stand up and walk straight. There is a purpose for you being where you are. Find it. Achieve it.

My grandad died of cancer. That day i vowed to help patients when I finish my studies and start earning.